Thursday, August 16, 2012

Still on the Surf Train and rambling about marriage...

 Today we went to RJs aka River Jettys.  One of my least favorite surf destination...actually I've never surfed there.  Never wanted to.  Especially after a friend of mine told me he ran into a shopping cart while catching a wave in the jetty.  Looks racy and dumpy.  I prefer slow and long.  Anyway, Monet asked me to push her into some waves again and she stood up!!  It's so fun because she gets so excited.  It was a super good time with some of my favorite people and loved seeing the kids in complete bliss riding waves on their bellies, chasing each other around.
 Just finished this little beauty for a friend of mine who is getting married.  It's a beach/picnic blanket.  I am a bridesmaid in the wedding and Monet is the flower girl.  It will all be going down this Friday.  Should be fun.  And, I should be crying.  I am already getting teary eyed just thinking about it.  I think it's amazing when two people find each other and it just works.  You can tell when it's right and the universe feels good around you.  You make this commitment to love each other and I feel like because you put that out there, you get that back.  Two people that are not doing it for any reason other than that.  I don't think it makes a difference if it's a legal ceremony or one in a church or one that isn't recognized by law.  I don't believe in that.  You make a commitment to love, you get love back.  In my opinion, if you do it for other reasons, it's different...or you're too young and you don't know yourself.  My girlfriend is not the type of person whose main goal in life was to get married.  In fact, I'm sure it took her a long time to even consider it.
 This is Isaac contemplating the subject...to marry or not to marry...hhmmm.  Monet had become preoccupied with marriage around last year.  She would ask me if I thought she would get married or say she was going to "marry daddy."  I try to plant the seed of, "You don't have to get married to be successful.  Not everyone gets married."  I personally avoided it for a long time.  Around 25, I accepted the fact that that wasn't a lifestyle I really wanted.  I had Monet and that changed everything obviously.  Everything slowed down and she was my priority in life...that and survival.  It was not easy.  I dated a little, but when Robby and I started dating, it was so obvious and easy.  We had instant chemistry and I didn't freak out at the thought of being married to him.  That was a first.  I felt calm and comfortable about it.  The day we got married is a different story.  But, that's for another day.

My new favorite family picture.  I love these two so much.  They do drive me crazy, but I love them.

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